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Nov. 2-8: Domestic Disturbances, Disturbing Music News

Posted Fri Nov 6, 2009 7:43pm PST by Lyndsey Parker in That's Really Week

The Rihanna/Chris Brown saga may have been the story dominating music headlines this week, as Rihanna publicly and frankly spoke about her ordeal for the first time to Diane Sawyer--but sadly, that was not the only domestic abuse scandal in the news. Other singers were accused of similar wrongdoing, and it remains to be seen if their respective careers, reputations, and/or relationships can recover from the fallout.

One of the most shocking stories of the week came when Oprah Winfrey booted BeBe Winans, a revered gospel singer (which somehow makes this story even more surprising), from her show's "karaoke challenge"--due to charges against him for allegedly pushing his ex-wife to the ground. BeBe, who recently reunited with his sister CeCe for their first joint album in 15 years, had already appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show the week prior and was slated for future karaoke episodes; however, this week Oprah spokesman Don Halcombe announced that BeBe had been pulled from the show due to his current scandal. (BeBe was charged with misdemeanor domestic assault in February, after he and his ex-wife Debra allegedly quarreled over their children; he is due in court January 2010.)

Oprah had been blasted by bloggers this week for letting BeBe appear on her program after she'd taken such a firm stand against domestic violence earlier this year, even dedicating an entire special episode to the Chris Brown/Rihanna situation. "Let's just not have a double standard on domestic violence or even accusations of domestic violence," argued writer Joni Reynolds of the blog Ebony Mom Politics, who later praised Oprah's decision to remove BeBe from The Oprah Winfrey Show.

As of this writing, it is still unclear whether Oprah was aware of the charges against BeBe, or when/if he will be able to return to the show.

Meanwhile Ian Brown, the ex-frontman for Manchester alt-rock legends the Stone Roses, was arrested in London on suspicion of assaulting his wife of 10 years, model/actress Fabiola Quiroz. Authorities were called to the couple's West Kensington home Monday morning after neighbors reported a disturbance, and "on arrival, a 37-year-old woman [Fabiola] made an allegation of domestic assault and a 46-year-old man [Ian] was arrested at the address and taken to a West London police station," the Metropolitan police said in a statement. Ian, who has embarked on a solo career since the Stone Roses' split in 1996, was released on bail until next month, pending further investigation.

This all seems to be part of a very disturbing and unfortunate trend, as of course the most prominent of this week's domestic assault stories was the aforementioned Rihanna/Chris Brown case. Rihanna finally broke her silence about her "dangerous" former relationship this week--after Chris had already granted a prominent interview to Larry King and offered his apologies in a self-made YouTube video a couple months ago--giving her own very outspoken interview on Good Morning America and 20/20 this week.

While some questioned the suspicious timing of all this soul-spilling--it came, conveniently, right around the time that she had a new album, Rated R, to promote--few people failed to be impacted by Rihanna's unminced words.

Describing that fateful, frightful Grammy weekend evening when Chris ("definitely my first big love") bit, choked, and punched her while she was riding in his rental car (an altercation that eventually led to Chris being convicted of felony assault), Rihanna said: "There was no person when I looked at him. He had no soul in his eyes. Just blank." She also implied that Chris assaulted her "eight or nine" times before she finally left him for good, and said she was "embarrassed" that she'd briefly reconciled with Chris after the February 8 attack because it sent the wrong message to her fans and any females caught in abusive relationships. She additionally warned other women not to be blinded by love like she had been.

However, in the end she insisted: "I don't hate [Chris] at all. I actually love and care about him and I'm concerned about him doing well. I want him to do well--have a great career, have a great life, and grow up. Just take this as something that you had to go through to grow up and learn."

After that shocking interview, pretty much any damage-control efforts Chris and his fleet of publicists had made to repair his tarnished image (as he of course gets set to release his own new album, Graffiti) had been thoroughly thwarted. However, Chris did try to once again tell his side of the story on MTV to veejay Sway; it was his second TV interview addressing his Rihanna relationship, after the famously blue-bowtied one he did on CNN's Larry King Live. While Rihanna's Diane Sawyer interview had been somber and tearful, Chris's Sway chat was definitely more lighthearted, with Chris even smirking or outright smiling in parts. Many angry detractors felt he did not seem nearly remorseful enough, especially when his interview was contrasted with Rihanna's.

Chris actually later responded to Rihanna's statements after her Diana Sawyer interview aired, releasing a statement via MTV that read: "While I respect Rihanna's right to discuss the specific events of February 8, I maintain my position that all of the details should remain a private matter between us. I do appreciate her support and wish her the best. I am extremely sorry for what I did, and I accept accountability for my actions. At this point, I am taking the proper steps to learn about me and grow from my mistakes. I only hope that others in similar situations can learn from our experience as well. Abuse of any kind is always wrong. The rest, I leave it to God."

It remains to be seen if this more contrite and carefully worded statement will help polish up Chris's still-tarnished image, or if the post-20/20 backlash against him is already in full, unstoppable force.

And finally, in other troubled-relationship news (although, thankfully, NOT having to do with domestic violence this time), this week Usher finalized his divorce from his wife of two years and the mother of two of his children, Tameka Foster. According to an AP report, Usher declared the marriage was "irretrievably broken" and any hope of reconciliation was unlikely, although a specific reason for the filing was not given. However, clues regarding the dissolution of Usher and Tameka's union were offered earlier this year in the R&B star's blatant divorce ballad "Papers," in which he sang of an evil woman (presumably Tameka?) nearly destroying his relationship with his mother, of sleeping in a separate room, and of being desperate to file divorce paperwork and finally be free.

Nope, not the most subtle song ever recorded.

And on that sad note, we sign off for now, hoping that there will be no more stories of domestic abuse to report next week. Be safe, everyone, and see you next Friday.

THIS WEEK'S TOP 10 STORIES:

1) Rihanna Finally Speaks - Chris Brown's ex finally tells her side of the story.

2) Chris Brown Sasses Back - The singer's controversial MTV interview makes detractors doubt his remorse.

3) Oprah Boots BeBe - Winfrey removes Winans from her show amid domestic assault allegations.

4) Usher Files His Papers - His divorce from Tameka Foster is finalized.

5) No Doubt About It, They're Mad - Gwen Stefani and company sue Activision over Band Hero.

6) Bono Bums Out Berlin? - Fans become outraged over a wall blocking a free U2 concert.

7) A Sublime Ruling? - A judge prevents surviving Sublime members from using the band's name.

8) Sharon Vs. SuBo - Sharon Osbourne launches a foul-mouthed attack on Susan Boyle.

9) Elton's Still Standing - The rock legend is released from the hospital and plans to resume touring.

10) Stoned Attack - The Stone Roses' Ian Brown is arrested for domestic assault.

 

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359 Comments

1. Kimberly B -
the holocaust didn't happen, he didn't beat her, the bruises didn't exist...You all are stupid beyond belief. Why are the loudest voices are also the most ignorant ones????? Abuse is real, just because he's cute and famous doesn't mean he isn't a woman beating scum bag. Sure he is gonna deny, like you would admit to that...Ya keep it private Chris, because isn't that where all batters want battering to take place, you know in private. Keep them victims in their proper place bro? Keep the mantra alive wife beaters! All you dumb butts believe him???

2. Channelle -
The articles has some very incorrect information present and may be sued if Rihanna were to read it. It states that she said she had been assaulted 8 or 9 times before the she left Mr.Brown however she did not state that. I am assuming the writer has very little with Caribbean accents. What she did state is that a woman is normally assaulted 8 or 9 times before she leaves. Rihanna however left him after the first time...

3. sAsSy -
It happens to a star, everyone cares. I don't. She has enough money to deal with her [profane]. What about everyone else?

4. Angel -
Correction...Rhianna at no point in time stated that Chris brown abused her 8 or 9 times what she did was corrected Diane Sawyer whe she said a womwn leaves after 6 or 7 times...watch it again people...get your facts straight. Also I am in now way defending Chris for what he did to that girl but people need to understand there are 3 sides to this story his, hers, and the truth...so leave that boy alone let him try to get his life together....As for Rhianna regardless of why she claims her reasoning is for speaking out now...the public know that it was pre-arranged so she spoke right before her album got released...hello sympathy sales

5. Yahoo! Music User -
Im tired of Oprah thinking she mrs. perfect; nobody's perfect.I do agree that these men shouldnt hit these women but these women shouldnt stay with these men if they feel so mistreated.

6. blitherer -
Put 'em both on 'Oprah' and have 'em beat her live on the air.

7. cathy -
When will Oprah stop being everyone else conscience?? She is not perfect, and need to stop judging other people!! What a hypocrite

8. brniedgrl -
I am so sick of Oprah or Orca being America's conscience I could puke! When her closet is finally opened and all of her skeletons fall out and they will fall out a lot of her little recruits will be shaken to their very cores. Her big fat @ss has an opinion about everybody! She makes me sick...

9. LaQuanda -
I agree with you Angel. I don't support abuse either. Chris is wrong for what he did. But why has this female now come out with her story? She is not fooling me and everyone else need not fall for the okee doke. She is about getting paid. During her interview she says that she can help other girls. HELP YOURSELF!!!! I don't need you talking to my daughter, that is what I am for. Her family needs to help her, she is the one that has issues. Look deeper, she was standing up for him in her interview, that is why I feel that there is more to the story that we will never know.

10. Tiersa -
I THINK BY HITTIN A WOMAN DOESNT MAKE U A MAN. I KNOW EVERYONE HAS THIER BREAKING POINT BUT STILL THAT ISNT THA WAY. I KNOW PEOPLE THA HAVE BEEN THROUGH DIS AND ITS NOT HEALTHY 4 U

11. Testorshia -
I never really liked Rihanna or Chris Brown but I think neither of them is telling the whole truth of the situation. Rihanna failed to say that she most likely got in his face and hit him first, and Chris has pretty much failed to say anything. The right message to send would be for nobody to hit anybody else, would it not? Stop seeing only Rihanna as the victim and note that he probably was as well. Now everybody else and their domestic drama is just sad and shameful. Usher and his wife...well we all saw that one coming, didnt we?

12. Robery -
Oprah is not only hippocritical but full of herself. She is racist also..put that it your pipe and smoke it...voted for someone because of their race, not what they stand for...she is finding out now...like the rest of us

13. maria -
People lets just please stop the this gossiping....Who cares... they are human just like us the only difference is that they are in the public eye and we are not.....

lets try to give them there privacy.....I think not but oh well!!!!!

14. JuniorF -
Honestly if this keep on, and talk show host are not going to let a person appear on there show because of certain allegations, there are not going to have any quest to do there shows!!! That’s nonsense that a host is not going to have a quest on their show because of certain allegation that may or may not be true. Lots off love and blessing to all.

15. JuniorF -
Leave Chris Brown alone; the media is just making money out off his mistake.

16. Dustin -
Dear Writer,

Please re-read the section about the rhianna interview. You said rhianna IMPLIED chris had assaulted her 8 or 9 times before she left him for good. She made that comment after Diane Sawyer said on average the person being abused allows it to happen 7 times before they take action, rhianna replied 8 or 9. I gathered that she was correcting the statistic, not stating her situation. Take another look at the video. Its all a crazy situation that has run its course. Thanks

17. Melissa -
Wow yeah if you go word for word R. did not say C. abused her 8 or 9 times. But if you ever been in her shoes that is exactly what she did say. It was in code and anyone who has ever been a victim know what R. is really up to with all of this. And abusers always look for the slime in everything.

18. Polski -
Not News, Media hype! Rather read about some druggie, smashing her (his) Porsche, into a crowded Starbucks!

19. Yahoo! Music User -
Where does one start.. Abuse is never the answer, but the part where people need to forgive is we all make mistakes. Cause noone ever talks about when women are violent and men walk away never never never cause its like some sort of double standard. Yes everone should keep their hands to themselves.
But every person on this earth has a breaking point, everyone. Thats not an excuse its fact.There is that one thing that if someone where to touch on or bring up that brings each of use to the edge. But for Rhiannas people to make her wait to talk 2 weeks before her album release is awefull really awefull. And that is the truth she had * months to speak out and help other girls if thats her real motive?? Sell healing not ratings and CD's but middle america knows nothing about PR and Marketing. So at the end of the day there has been forgiveness for others extend it to Chris Brown not cause he's famous because he is human. Alex Baldwin, Sean Connery, Mikckey Rourke and a few others also had issues with abuse seem to have given a chance to move forward with their lives...Academy Awards, #1 TV shows and decade long careers.. Whats your deepest darkest secret that your hiding??? Boy the world would be shock to see what most people get away with not to mention famous people, believe me I've see tons of stuff, it just never makes the news :) Now as far as Oprah.. Please you don't become a billion aire with out some crazy skeletons. NO KIds NO Husband, and always ahving to say Gayle my best friensd!!!! your 52 Oprah who says my best friend my best friend. I dont even have enough room on this page to address this crazy judgemantal business we work in. So many of her guest had issues she doesnt even know about. Get over yourself.

20. abel -
do people really think its fair to treat these guys like this? I mean if the law is making them pay what else do u want from them? I know it's no excuse but some women can push to the brink of destruction.
I have been married for 8yrs and never put my hands on my wife. But i do admit sometimes I feel she deserves it but I know that is not the right way but not everyone is the same.
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